Music moves me. There are songs that I regard as my personal anthems, that speak to me pointedly and poignantly. They lift my spirits, ease my pain, remind me to relax, strengthen my resolve, inspire me to dance and sing with joy. Here’s my newest addition, by Jonny Lang, called “Thankful”. Enjoy.
Okay, so here’s the second half of the article on my latest “Reverse Homer” (that’s where I do something brilliant entirely intuitively or from a place of pure fun).
To recap: I was musing on the power of small but constant messaging in one’s life. Yeah, the big things matter big time, but the aggregate impact of small messages is something we can direct purposefully. We can build and strengthen our core confidence with these small, potent message mediums.
Oh yeah, time for “Just the Facts”, ma’am. Hey, Joe Friday from Dragnet was a very confident cat in his day.
I know a whole bunch of you are way ahead of me already, but let me spell this out anyway, in the following snappy little fact progression.
FACT #1: We all have the ability to reinforce either confidence or unease/uncertainty in ourselves.
FACT #2: We do this all the time, whether we realize it or not.
FACT #3: Our subconscious is a powerful force that we can harness for good or ill.
FACT #4: By creating small fun reinforcements of what it is we most want in and for ourselves, we engage the subconscious on a fundamental level.
FACT #5: Thoughts become things (thank you Mike Dooley)
FACT #6: More confidence reserves are “automagically” created by the subconscious through deliberately chosen thoughts and subliminal messages, these stores of confidence to be used at the will or whim of the conscious mind.
FACT # 7: Confident people make things happen.
Now here’s the deal: you’ve got to look at your day to day life and take stock of the tiny messages your habits and environment give your subconscious mind. What are you telling yourself? Are your messages those of fulfillment, ease, grace, FUN, prosperity, love?
Now I know that there are messages and input that you cannot change, because they come from sources over which you have no direct control. I’m not talking about those. I’m talking about the reallllllly little things you DO have control over, the little things that you do or say to yourself that flavor your life and your perceptions of your various circumstances.
Take a few moments right now, and change something small. You’re at your computer if you’re reading this, so why not change your browser theme, or the default font you use? Go on, rearrange your desktop where you’re sitting to include messages printed or written out that inspire you to claim your own greatness. Wear the ring that makes you feel rich today. Make a new habit of using the good soap, the guest towels, the expensive perfume on yourself as a small but powerful statement of your worth. Tell yourself, “Oh Hell Yes!”
Oh, Hell Yes!
Molly Burke CPCC MSU
Queen of Confidence
www.lifepurposeworks.com
“Even before I begin, I am made of win!”
The smallest thing can be a potent reminder of the core of your confidence. I recently decided to change the theme of my Firefox browser. It’s now bejeweled, purple and gold. It fills the child in me with great delight, and reminds me about my work/play/message/FUN. Because I work on my computer all doo-dah day, it’s a tiny thing that I see constantly, so it is always tickling at my subconscious (where the child lives). It’s pleases me visually and fills me with playful glee. This in turn creates emotional responses in line with ease and play, which in turn stimulates creativity and innovation. It lights me up. If you know my Life Purpose, you’ll know how THAT affects me. Major good stuff from a little bitty thing.
Now mind you, I didn’t start out with that “tapping the subconscious” wisdom in the forefront of my consciousness. I just wanted to play with the new toy (themes) and like any light-hearted treasure hunt, found a jewel I liked, and took it. Then I began to notice a change in how I felt when I used this new theme, and how it continually makes me feel even now. A sexy curiosity indeed, but it’s not where I started. It’s only in hindsight evaluations that I came to these ever so advanced and enlightened observations about subconscious engagement and subliminal messaging as a powerful tool. And that stuff ain’t no news.
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t’s fun for me is that once again, I’ve done the smart thing without consciously realizing it. I think of this as a “Reverse Homer”. And once again, it’s lead me to an insight about conscious behaviors and habits that translate brilliantly into Jim Dandy confidence tools.
To make the most of the next blog post, you should start to notice all the teeny tiny things you surround yourself with and say to yourself (or allow yourself to take in), and what their individual and aggregate impact is.
The follow up to this post will take you through the logic and practical applications (the “Just the Facts”) of this stuff. Stay tuned.
Molly Burke CPCC MSU
Queen of Confidence
www.lifepurposeworks.com
“Even before I begin, I am made of win!”
There are starlings in the eaves/ceiling space near where I sit and type by the big windows with the Bay view. Every morning I hear them scrabbling about (like right now) making their little birdhouse within my house more to their liking. Sometimes I hear them argue with each other, sometimes they bill and coo. They steal the herbs from my balcony planters, eat my tomatoes in the summertime, and crap on my back steps. They’re really not very melodious birds, either.
Very practical people who know about such things advise me to plug up the hole where they have gotten in. They wisely counsel me to evict them and rid myself of all that annoyance, citing the obvious nuisance and destruction and filth and such. Got a great estimate to fix it, too. Nuisance abatement, they called it. It’s very good advice indeed, and makes a great deal of sense. I feel absolutely no regret in refusing it. You see, here’s the thing about those damned dirty, thieving, destructive birds:
I love them.
Last year they had babies, which resulted in intermittent flurries of ravenous peeps emminating from my ceiling throughout the day. During that time of year I sit without music, listening intently as I type, eager to enjoy the sounds of new life flourishing above my head. It’s one of my favorite springtime delights at home. Can’t wait for this year’s clutch to hatch out. Should be soon.
Starlings are undoubtedly bad for my roof, but they’re very good for my soul.
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Molly Burke CPCC MSU
Queen of Confidence
www.lifepurposeworks.com
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