This is an ongoing series of posts on various subjects for which I lacked a decent Google-searchable keyword title. Searching Google for ideas produced, “PEARLS OF WISDOM”, which has such a rich flavor of hubris and chuzpah that I just HAD to use it.
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Insanity: doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results.
I submit, Gentle Readers, that many of us engage in a kind of sad, self defeating insanity called New Year’s resolutions. And riiiiiight about now, if not before, most everyone who makes those superficially laudable resolutions fails to follow through.
Don’t worry, this is NOT a motivational pep talk post. Some other day, maybe, but not today.
We’re grown ups, well, most of us at least, and right now I am talking to and with those of us who identify as adults. Right about now you’re feeling badly about not keeping those earnestly made New Year’s resolutions. And pretty much like clockwork, you spend every January doing some version of this sick little dance.
How do I know this? Nevermind how I know.
Isn’t it about time you respected your word a bit more and stopped the futile habit of making those damned resolutions in the first place? Cut yourself some winter slack, assess your past annual resolution performances, and decide THIS year not to make yourself wrong and crazy and a liar NEXT year. Reserve the power of your word for the kind of resolutions that have a chance, those born of insight and an inner desire to make a positive change, not ones that are enacted in response to some arbitrary date on the calendar.
Stop setting yourself up for disappointment. Resist the urge to get caught up in New Year’s resolutions if you’ve got a history of not following through. You beat yourself up with those “resolutionary shoulds”. I should lose weight, I should quit smoking, I should go to the gym. And then you feel like crap even more when you fail yet again. So stop. Just stop. Don’t heap more evidence into the “I can’t depend on/trust myself” basket. You don’t need that.
What you need to do is get really clear about what is it that you really truly want. You know what I’m talking about, the deepest, most cherished dreams of your Soul. Ponder those things instead of those cursed “resolutionary shoulds”. Spend your precious time and energy dwelling upon, concentrating on and taking action on the dreams of your Highest Self.
When you get clear about what it is you really want, and take action on that, you’re MUCH more likely to follow through. And isn’t that what you ultimately want? To act with intention, secure that the direction you’re going is the right one, rich with lasting internal motivation?
Screw New Year’s resolutions and the same old same old. I’ll take a risk and do something different, starting now.
How about you?
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Molly Burke CPCC MSU
Queen of Confidence
www.lifepurposeworks.com
“I’ve bottled confidence and you can, too!”
