One confidence tip of the day from Molly Burke, CPCC MSU, Queen of Confidence: Resentment
During my long reign as Queen of Confidence I have witnessed many triumphs and tragedies of confidence. Periodically I’ll be sharing what I hope shall be pithy insights intended to act as cautionary tales and inspirational anecdotes as well as practical tools for improving one’s own sense of confidence. You’ll also find powerful questions, confidence tasks and useful affirmations included from time to time, meant to further empower your own sense of confidence. These tips will be shared sporadically, as the inspiration strikes.
RESENTMENT: Indignation or ill will felt as a result of a real or imagined grievance.
Sometimes I resent “having” to blog regularly for my business. I admit it. So, I thought I’d blog about resenting blogging.
Then I looked up the word resentment and got a bit embarassed. Imagined grievance. *wince* That hits home.
You see, I imagined that I had a grievance in the first place. My grievance was even embodied. “Well, because Ann Evanston said I need to blog for my business I’d better friggin’ do it. After all, Ann is watching my every move.” Typing out the imagined grievance just now made me laugh at its absurdity. I’d managed to get my knickers in a mighty twist not just once, but repeatedly over this one resentment. And half it it was based on a fantasy. Sheesh, Molly.
Now I see it for its folly. Not only that, but it’s changed the direction of this blog post midstream. I was gonna wax rhapsodic and wise about resentment. Now I see a new way to come at this whole resentment thing.
Writing down the resentment made me see it for what it was. Imagined. Over emotionalized. Irrational. And most of all, costly. Putting it down on virtual paper gave it a shape outside myself, helped me see it with fresh eyes.
RESENTMENT: a great tool for keeping oneself stuck. Feel free to stick it out, or do what I just did. Write it down. Look at it. Examine it from all angles. And then, I invite you do what I did. Laugh at yourself lovingly for being human, forgive yourself, and then do the thing you formerly resented.
Hot Damn, this sh*t works!
RESENTMENT: a great opportunity to get off it.
I love my work.
Your affirmation: “I, <name> learn and prosper from everything in my life.”
p.s. YAY Ann Evanston!
Molly Burke CPCC MSU
Queen of Confidence
www.lifepurposeworks.com
“I’ve bottled confidence. Care for a wee dram?”
