PEARLS OF WISDOM: Get some allies! 3 Part Series Part 2
In part one of this 3 part series, I talked about how important it is to surround yourself with allies.
Now it’s time to talk about who to choose as your allies. The allies you choose will be instrumental on your path to success. The wrong choices can materially contribute to your failures. It’s up to you to choose wisely and well. Hoo boy, no pressure there, huh?
Okay, so what IS an ally? Allies are the people with whom you deliberately create strategic alliances for your mutual betterment. You share common goals, values, and optimal operating practices with these people. You know how they feel, because they call you forth and gladly encourage your greatness.
You might assume that all your friends and family are automatically your allies. Not so fast. In many instances, they’re not. They want what they want for you, clouded with their fears for your well being, their projections, their insecurities, their attachments and agenda for how they think you should be living your life. At their worst, they are likely to act jealous and profoundly unsupportive. They might mean well (or not), but they’re just not necessarily the best default choices. As a matter of fact, when it comes to choosing allies, there ARE no default choices.
Now don’t get me wrong. Some of your friends and family, former teachers, mentors, coaches, classmates, business partners, colleagues and spiritual advisors can make GREAT allies. But choose carefully. Just because they express love and support does not mean they’ll encourage your growth, especially if your growth comes to threaten the way they live their own life or their present relationship with you. They might actually come to deeply resent you.
Your allies can come from any part of your life. In preparation for Part 3 of this series, make a list of everyone you think might be a potential ally, whether they are an ally of yours now, or even if you don’t know if you’d dare to ask them to be your ally (or not). We’ll be doing some great examination of your list with the contents of the next post. Stay tuned.
Who do you think your allies might be?
Molly Burke CPCC MSU
Queen of Confidence
www.lifepurposeworks.com
“Everyone can use an extra wee dram of confidence every now and again.”
